“A self-centered life is a stationary life; it’s static, not dynamic. A self-centered person wants to be the center around which everything else orbits. I might help people; I might have friends; I might fall in love as long as there’s no compromise of my individual interests or whatever meets my needs. I might even give to the poor — as long as it makes me feel good about myself and doesn’t hinder my lifestyle too much. Self-centeredness makes everything else a means to an end.”

Tim Keller