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On worldliness, part 3

9 Nov

Is your religion real?

In James 1:26 and 27, we are given three tests.

1.) The way we speak.

2.) The way we relate to the vulnerable.

And,

3.) The way we relate to the world.

Are we worldly?

Over the past couple of posts we have been defining worldliness and thinking a little about why it is dangerous. Now, let’s try to get specific.

What are some specific ways we can evaluate whether or not we are worldly?

First.

What’s your attitude towards money?  

Matthew 6:19ff, “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures upon earth where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal.  But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal…”

The world’s attitude towards money, treasure it.  God’s,treasure me. 

No one can serve two masters.

You can’t serve God and money. 

So you need to ask yourself some tough questions.  Why do I work?  Why do I save my money?  Why do I have the house I have?  Why do I have the car I have?  Listen, you’ve got to ask yourself the hard questions.  Get together with someone who knows more than you and ask for help.  Work through your attitude towards money.  Have you been stained by the world?  

Second.

What’s your attitude toward entertainment?

Too often our attitude towards entertainment is just like the worlds. 

Wayne Wilson writes, “Every Christian seems to agree that we live in a time of cultural decline.  Obscenity, vulgarity, and perversion are the norms.  Decency, honor and purity are the exceptions.  Christians talk about a culture war as though it were an us versus them contest.  I will argue that we are the enemy – that it is us versus us.  The decadence prevails because it is largely funded by Christian dollars, viewed in Christian homes, and welcomed by Christian hearts.  Somehow we have grown fond of this world.  Christians have always been tempted by the world, but this is I believe the first generation of Bible believing Christians to ever have embraced the world’s temptations so completely.  We delight in that which is offensive to God.  Because we love what the world loves the world is tearing us down.”

How does your view of entertainment match up to Ephesians 5:3-7?  “But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.  For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.  Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.  Therefore do not be partakers with them…”  

When was the last time you exposed yourself or your family to entertainment that matches the description given here in Ephesians 5?  What’s the world say about that?  Oh it’s just funny joking.  Or that kind of stuff doesn’t bother me.  But that’s not the point.  It should bother you.  Wayne Wilson explains, “To rely on what bothers me is trusting my own heart, the very thing the Bible warns I should not trust.  If someone steals or watches pornography enough times, it may not bother that person anymore, but is that a true standard?  People do become callous.  The heart is deceitful.  A cold heart is not a reliable standard to live by.”  Have you been stained by the world?  

Third.

What’s the purpose of your life? 

Are you living primarily for the now?  Are you living primarily for your own personal pleasure?  

The world makes its decisions on the basis of one thing. How will it affect me?  Will it bring me pleasure?   The apostle John defines worldliness as “the lust of the eyes, the lust of the flesh and the boastful pride of life…” In other words, living for the now.  

Sometimes professing Christians make decisions that way.  How many times have you heard someone say, or you have said yourself, I would obey God in this particular area, but it’s too hard.  What do they mean by that?  God’s commands don’t fit my desires.  I would serve in the local church, I would submit to my husband, I would sacrificially love my wife, I would witness, but I don’t want to, so I’m not going to.  

God has given us our purpose.

You have been bought with a price therefore honor God with your body. 

But is that how we are living?   How do you make decisions?  What’s the bottom line?  Are you being stained by the world?  

Four.

What’s your attitude towards sin?

This is a bit more general, but it’s an important issue.  

The world minimizes sin.  Too many believers fall for that trap. Instead of seeing our sin the way God sees it, we minimize it and make excuses for it.  

“It is but a little sin!  God is merciful!  God is not extreme…We mean well.  One cannot be so particular!  Where is the mighty harm?  We only do as others!”  

Do you make excuses for your sin?  Even as we talk about some of these examples of worldliness are you coming up with rationalizations in your heart?  

We must not accept the world’s standards and the world’s definition of sin.  We must remember as J.C. Ryle writes, ‘Sin comes to us, like Judas, with a kiss, and like Joab, with an outstretched hand and flattering words.  The forbidden fruit seemed good and desirable to Eve, yet it cast her out of Eden.  The walking idly on his palace seemed harmless enough to David, yet in ended in adultery and murder.  Sin rarely seems sin at its first beginnings.  Let us then watch and pray that we fall into temptation.”

Do you see sin as no big deal?  Have you been stained by the world?

Those are just a few examples that come to mind.

Now, I didn’t give you those examples so that we might establish our own legalistic list of do’s and don’ts but instead to help you see that we all are in danger of being infected with worldliness.  Worldliness is not an issue out there that we don’t have to be concerned about because we are in here.

No, we are involved in a battle.  We need to war against worldliness.  If we are not, we are losing.    

Obviously, as believers, we are not perfect. 

That’s not James’ point here in verse 27.  The apostle John says “If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.”  Paul writes of believers, “the flesh lusts against the Spirit and the Spirit against the flesh, and they are contrary to one another.”  But the point is, true believers fight.  They work at keeping themselves from being stained by the world because they realize the stakes are high. 

James is very black and white about this isn’t he? 

If you are not keeping yourself from being stained by the world, in other words, if you are living your life according to the world’s standards and values, that’s proof your worship isn’t acceptable to God.  It’s worthless.  

Why?  Is this works salvation?  No.  Of course not.  It’s salvation works. 

As Christians, we have been set free.  Colossians 1:13 says that we have been “transferred out of the domain of darkness and transferred us to the kingdom of His beloved Son.”  We’re not who we used to be.  God by His grace has taken us out of one kingdom and transferred us to another.  And, so Paul says in Colossians 3, “since we have been raised up with Christ…” since we have this new life, “we are to keep seeking the things above where Christ is…”  “Set your mind on things above, not on the things that are on the earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God.” 

We don’t keep ourselves unstained from the world because that’s what saves us, we keep ourselves unstained from the world because we are saved.  We are new creatures.  We’ve left that old life behind.  We’ve turned from the world to Christ, so why would we ever go back.  That’s why this is a great test of whether our worship is real.  It’s not something that can really be forced upon you. 

It’s something that should flow from you.  

Many years ago Martyn Lloyd Jones was struggling with his call to the ministry.  He had been trained as a doctor, and actually was the assistant physician for the Queen’s personal physician.  So he was on his way up.  But he sensed a call to the ministry.  As he was struggling through his call, which direction to take with his life, he was asked by one of his friends to go out to the theater.  

Years later, Lloyd Jones recalls that visit, as a turning point in his life.  He couldn’t remember the play, but what he does remember is coming out of the theater with the great crowds behind him, and all the glamour that is part of a night out at a play, and sees a rag-tag group of Salvation Army members playing a hymn on their instruments.  At that point, he said, he realized “These are my people.  These are the people to whom I belong.  And I want to belong to them.”  

We’ve come out of the world.  We don’t belong there anymore.  We have a new life and a new purpose and a new direction.  The world used to be everything to us, now God is.

This is not legalistic – keep yourself from worldliness.  This is grace – keep yourself from worldliness.  Christ has redeemed us – he has saved us – and so we long to be with Him and do what He desires.  

Edward Payson illustrates, “When a man stands with his back to the sun, his own shadow and the shadows of surrounding objects are before him.  But when he turns towards the sun, all these shadows are behind him.  It is the same in spiritual things.  God is the great Sun of the Universe.  Compared with him creatures are but shadows.  But while men stand with their backs to God, all these shadows are before them, and engross their affections, desires and exertions.  On the contrary, when they are converted and turn to God, all these shadows are thrown behind them, and God becomes all in all, so they can say from the heart, ‘Whom have we in heaven but thee? And there is none on earth that we desire besides thee.”  (Psalm 73:25)”

Think of it like this:  “The Scriptures teach us that angels are continually present in this world, and they are doing all sorts of things in the purpose of God.  Since they are spirits, we can’t see them with our eyes.  So we go about our day and we are basically unaware of all that is going on around us.  Now imagine, that God should somehow give you the ability to see these angels throughout your day.  That would certainly change the way you went about doing things, wouldn’t it?  You would see angels where everybody else just saw nothing.  You would be interested by the sight, you would want to talk with these angels, you would want to become friends with these angels.  You wouldn’t be like other men any more, would you?  You would be something of a new person, angels would seem much more interesting to you than anything else.  People would either think you were crazy or a visionary or just distracted.  Now God did not make angels visible to us.  But the light of God’s Word does make the Lord of angels in some sense visible to us, at least now he is a reality in our minds, and the Scriptures help us to feel and act as if we saw Him who is invisible.  The Scriptures bring God into the circle of objects by which we perceive ourselves surrounded, and in whatever circle he is seen, he will be seen to be the most important object in it.  Now if the sight of angels would affect a change in a man’s character, how much more will seeing the infinite God.  His favor will appear all important, his anger dreadful; all other objects will, in a measure, lose their interest, and the man will be thought deluded, or visionary or distracted.”  

True believers are different than the world. 

That’s James 1:27. 

True religion is this – to keep oneself unstained by the world. 

Worldliness is a problem.  We’re not living in heaven.  We’re living in hostile territory.  The world’s against God and it wants us to be.  This means we have to keep ourselves from being stained by the world.  

Is your religion real? 

That’s the test James gives us. 

If you are not a believer you are just going to live your life according to the world’s system.  You may go to church on Sunday, but you live for the world throughout the week.  But if you are a true believer, you’ve been transformed and so although you still fall and still struggle, you will war against worldliness for the glory of your God and Father.     

Do you?

On worldliness, part 2

7 Nov

Worldliness is dangerous because it stains us.   

James says true religion is to ‘keep oneself unstained by the world.’

In other words, if you are not actively keeping yourself, you are going to be stained by the world.

The reason you have to actively keep yourself unstained by the world is because the world is constantly seeking to press us into its mold.  You hear a lot these days about tolerance. But the truth is the world is not tolerant towards God and towards true believers.  The world wants you to think like they think.  That’s why the apostle Paul explains in Romans 12:2, “And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.”  

If we are not on our guard, we are in danger. 

You’ve all heard the story of how you boil a frog.  You don’t just set him down in boiling water.  No you put him in a pot of water that is a nice temperature, and then you slowly turn up the heat.  That’s the way worldliness tends to stain us and to infect our lives.   We let down our guard.   

You see this happening in the Old Testament. 

One author explains, “As Israel became apostate, it’s practices were progressively less distinguishable from those of the Canaanites.”  Slowly but surely they began to think and act just like the world around them because they were not on their guard.  They weren’t keeping themselves unstained from the world.  

And “Just as Israel was told repeatedly to separate itself from the immoralities of the pagan peoples it was displacing in Canaan the early church was to separate itself from the beliefs and practices of the … civilization within which it existed.  Christians were not to feel at home in the world but rather were to conduct themselves as strangers and exiles, without becoming conformed to the surrounding society.”  

If we are not careful, what happens is that we being to integrate worldly ideas and principles with our Christian practice, without even really realizing it.  We become more and more worldly but are unaware of our worldliness because we are still participating in religious activities.  

Herbert Schlossberg in his book Idols for Destruction explains, “Rarely when Israel fell into idolatry did they openly renounce the worship of the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob in order to bow before the pagan shrines.  Instead…the nation combined the old rituals with what it knew of Canaanite religion.  We can see this in the description of the religious revival under King Josiah.  The king commanded the priests to remove from the temple the vessels that had been introduced for the service of Baal and of the heavenly bodies, he deposed the priests who burned incense to the pagan deities, he scattered the cult prostitutes…In turning away from God, the nation had not fallen into irreligion, but had combined the temple religion with the pagan beliefs and practices of the surrounding peoples.”  Their lives were stained by the world, and thus their worship was unacceptable to God.  

When I was a young man I went to the border of Rwanda.  And if you remember Rwanda a number of years ago was the scene of a terrible tribal war.  Hundreds if not thousands died.  And it was so sad as I talked to one of the missionaries about Rwanda he told me that before that event occurred Rwanda had been considered a Christian nation.  Many missionaries had gone to Rwanda and many had been supposedly converted.  But what had happened in reality was that many of the Rwandas just added Christianity to their old tribal religions.  It was a surface Christianity.  They went to church, they went through the motions of worship, but down deep, they hadn’t changed.  And so when the war broke out, they went back to their old ways because they had never really turned to new ones.

It’s easy to point our fingers at the Rwandans, but I’m afraid many professing Christians are like that.  We’ve just added going to church and praying as kind of a surface covering over a heart and life that is completely devoted to the world and our previous way of life. 

 If we take a step back we can see this happening in the church at large. Too often the ideas and principles that control the church are just the same principles and ideas that control those in the world, only perhaps they are clothed in more religious language.

For example I was reading in a newsletter, that in a past issue of Newsweek their religion editor asserted that ‘mere tolerance of other religions is not enough..’ and the ‘acceptance of other religions as valid paths to God is insufficient.’  According to the editor, ‘the most important theological agenda in the millennium is for committed Christians, Jews and Muslims to find within their own traditions sound theological reasons for valuing other faiths without compromising their own.”  

Now you think, that’s the world, I can understand that.  Apart from God, that makes sense.  But you don’t expect that kind of thing from the church.  But turn to Christianity Today, in a recent article by a college professor from a well known Christian college, we read that Christians ‘should seek Muslim prayer partners and gather together to pray to the true, one and only God to have mercy on us.’

“When evangelicals capitulate and attempt to soften the offense of the gospel this way, they blur the lines between the god of Islam and the God of the Bible.”  That’s just thinking like the world.  We can love Muslims and reach out to them without compromising the truth.  To do otherwise is to be stained by the world.  

Another example is that of psychology.  A University of Illinois psychologist “studied over a long period of time the relationship between academic psychology and the American churches.”  And you know what he found?  He discovered that “psychology and psychiatry were beginning to discover the damage done by their naturalistic assumptions…” But on the other hand, many in the churches had become so enamored with the naturalistic assumptions that were contradictory to their own beliefs that they were more committed to psychology and psychiatry than the psychologist and psychiatrists were.  

There are certainly other examples. 

James Montgomery Boice gives four.  “Like those liberals of past years, evangelicals today…1.) Pursue the world’s wisdom…If they are asked whether the Bible is the authoritative and inerrant Word of God, most will answer affirmatively.  But many have abandoned the Bible all the same because they don’t think it is adequate for the challenges we face as they enter a new millennium.  They don’t think it is sufficient for winning people to Christ so they turn to felt-need sermons, to entertainment, or to signs and wonders.  They do not think the Scriptures are sufficient for achieving genuine Christian growth, so they turn to therapy groups…2.) Embrace the world’s theology.  Like liberals before us evangelicals use the Bible’s words but give them new meanings.  Sin becomes dysfunctional behavior.  Salvation becomes self-esteem or wholeness…3.) Follow the World’s agenda.  The world’s major agenda is not hunger, racism…The world’s major agenda is being happy and happiness is achieving the maximum amount of personal peace and sufficient prosperity to enjoy it.  But is that not the bottom line of much evangelical preaching today?  Being happy?  Being content?  Being satisfied…4.)  Employ the world’s methods.  Evangelicals have become like liberals in this area, too.  How else are we to explain the stress so many place on numerical growth and money?  How else are we to explain that so many pastors tone down the hard edges of Bible truth in order to attract greater numbers to their services…”  

But we must be careful here.  It’s easy to talk generally about worldliness.  It’s even easy to talk about ways in which the church at large is becoming more and more worldly.  But we must remember that the church at large is made up of who?  Individuals.  And the church as a whole compromises with the world because individuals do.  So if we are concerned about the worldliness in the church, we need to start by being concerned about the worldliness in our hearts. Take your time this week and evaluate your life in light of Scriptures. 

Am I being stained by the world?  

Sometimes it is hard for us to identify the ways in which we are worldly because we have become so accustomed to it.  I’m sure many of the Rwandans didn’t think much about killing members of the other tribes because that’s the way they had always lived.  And many times we don’t think much about our worldliness because that’s our culture and we haven’t examined ourselves in light of Scripture. 

Donald Grey Barnhouse tells of how “Some years ago, musicians noted that errand boys in a certain part of London all whistled out of tune as they went about their work. It was talked about and someone suggested that it was because the bells of Westminster were slightly out of tune. Something had gone wrong with the chimes and they were discordant. The boys did not know there was anything wrong with the peals, and quite unconsciously they had copied their pitch. 

So we tend to copy the people with whom we associate; we borrow thoughts from the books we read and the programs to which we listen, almost without knowing it. God has given us His Word which is the absolute pitch of life and living. If we learn to sing by it, we shall easily detect the false in all of the music of the world.”  

Again, Herbert Schlossberg explains, “Idols are hard to identify after they have been part of the society for a time.  It became ‘normal’ for the people of Jerusalem to worship Molech in the temple, and it seemed odd that people calling themselves prophets should denounce the practice.  Molech was part of the establishment religious scene, one that directed the national worship throughout living memory.  The idol was supported by all the best elements of society, the political, economic, and religious power structure.  The prophets therefore denounced the powerful, wealth, and respectable, not because there is anything inherently wrong with those attributes, but because in that society people so described organized and validated a system of idol worship and injustice.”  

That’s why we must be on our guard.  That’s why we need to be called to ever-renewed vigilance and watchfulness in the war against worldliness.

If we are not warring against worldliness we are giving in to it.

On worldliness, part 1

6 Nov

Are you worldly?

That’s an important question.

After all, listen to James 1:27.

“This is pure and undefiled religion in the sight of our God and Father…to keep oneself unstained by the world.”  

Worldliness is a problem because the world wants to stain you and it’s a problem you should be concerned about because as James explains worship that God accepts comes from people who keep themselves unstained by the world.  

So the stakes our high.

Our relationship with the world is a test of our relationship with God.  Therefore regardless of how often you go to church, and how religious you appear, you need to ask yourself, am I keeping myself pure?

It is possible to engage in religious activities while being stained by the world.

Isaiah 1, perfect example. 

As one man writes,

“The nation of Judah was sunk in corruption and oppression, bribery was rampant, and the legal system a tool of despoliation.  Economic crime and murder abounded and government officials committed criminal acts.  Yet with all this the official religion of the nation, the temple worship of the Creator of the universe flourished.  People took part in the cultic observances of the God whose laws they had come to despise.” 

They claimed to worship God while living for themselves.

And you know what? 

God hates that kind of worship. 

He says, “Bring your worthless offerings no longer, incense is an abomination to Me.  New moon and Sabbath, the calling of assemblies – I cannot endure iniquity and solemn assembly.’ (Is.1:13)”   

They were worldly worshipers, and so God rejected their worldly worship.  

But worldliness is not just an Old Testament problem.

It’s a New Testament problem as well. 

Paul says in Philippians 4:18,19 “Many walk of whom I often told you and now tell you even weeping, that they are enemies of the cross of Christ, whose end is destruction, whose god is their appetite, who set their minds on earthly things.” 

Many people are worldly.  Not just those who are outside the church.  Many professing believers lives are stained by worldliness. 

That’s why the apostle John has to give this urgent admonition, “Do not love the world, nor the things of the world.  If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.”  

And if worldliness was a problem in the Old Testament, and a problem in the New Testament you can be sure that it is a problem today. 

In fact, I am afraid, many professing believers have failed at just this point.  

They don’t abandon worship. They come to church.  They go through all the motions.  But what they do on Sunday morning has nothing to do with the rest of their lives.  As one writer explains, they fail to understand that their worship service on Sunday mornings completely repudiates the way of life they uphold throughout the week. 

In the other words, they are  just as worldly as the world.

The truth is, many are outworlding the world. 

As James Montgomery Boice writes,

“Over a decade ago, Professor Martin Marty, always a shrewd observer of the American church said in a magazine interview that in his judgment, evangelicals would be ‘the most worldly people in America’ by the end of the century.  Marty’s observations are not always right in my opinion, but in this case he was on target.  Evangelicals have embraced worldliness in the same ways that it was embraced by liberal churches.” 

Iain Murray explains,

“Instead of the churches revolutionizing the culture, the reverse has happened.  Churches have been converted to the world…the stream of historic orthodoxy that once watered the evangelical soul is now dammed by a worldliness that many fail to recognize as worldliness because of the cultural innocence with which it presents itself.”  

Worldliness is a problem.

Are you worldly?

To answer that question, obviously you need to know what worldliness is.

The Greek word James uses for world is ‘kosmos.’

Sometimes it is used in Scripture to describe the physical universe itself, things like stars and planets, and the earth.  Obviously that’s not how James is using the term here.  He’s not talking about grass stains. This term kosmos is also used throughout Scripture to describe a way of thinking about life, and a way of living one’s life.  As one Greek dictionary defines it, the world is “the system of practices and standards associated with secular society (that is without reference to the demands and requirements of God.)”  The world represents apart from God thinking and living.

Worldliness, as Iain Murray explains,

“Is departing from God.  It is a man-centered way of thinking.” 

Or as David Wells writes, “Worldliness is that system of values and beliefs, behaviors, and expectations, in any given culture that have at their center the fallen human being and that relegate to their periphery any thought about God.  Worldliness is what makes sin look normal in any age and righteousness seem odd.”  

You see, there are two ways of viewing life. 

One is from God’s perspective, which is revealed in the Word, and the other is man’s perspective, which is revealed in the world.  God has a worldview, and He presents that worldview in the Scripture.  Unregenerate man also has a worldview.  He lives his life according to Galatians 4:3 in bondage to the basic principles of the world.   And these two perspectives, God’s and unregenerate man’s, are not neutral towards one another as some seem to think.  They are opposites.  What is of the world is not of the Father, and what is of the Father is not of the world.  The apostle John explains, “Do not love the world, nor the things in the world.  If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him.” (1 John 2:15)  The two cannot co-exist.

The Bible tells us God looks at the world’s ideas and principles and says they are foolish.  In fact, Paul says He has made them foolish.  1 Corinthians 1:20, “Where is the wise man? Where is the scribe?  Where is the debater of this age?  Has not God made foolish the wisdom of the world?”  And the world looks at God’s wisdom and thinks it is foolish.  1 Corinthians 2:14, “But a natural man does not accept the things of the Spirit of God; for they are foolishness to Him…”  

Sometimes when people hear the word worldliness, they think of a list of do’s and don’ts.  But when James talks about true believers keeping themselves unstained by the world and we talk about warring against worldliness, we’re talking about much more than just sticking to a list of do’s and don’ts that some person has made up. 

In fact, I think this is one of Satan’s great strategies. 

Many people hear James say ‘keep yourself unstained by the world…’ and they automatically think, ‘Great I am doing that.  I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I don’t go to bad movies. Therefore, I’m not worldly.’  But worldliness, being stained by the world, is something much bigger than not drinking and not smoking and not going to bad movies.  You can avoid movies, wear plain dresses and live in a monastery in the wilderness and be as worldly as a person who does all these things, because as John MacArthur puts it, “Worldliness is the sin of allowing one’s appetites, ambitions, or conduct to be fashioned by worldly values.”

I am saying, worldliness is a way of thinking, a way of looking at life

It is about more than what you do or don’t do. It’s about what’s going on in your heart.

To be stained by the world is to think like the world thinks and live like the world lives. 

You know, James uses different language but makes the same point over in 4:4, “You adulteresses, do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God?  Therefore whoever wishes to be a friend of the world makes himself an enemy of God.”

An enemy of God!

Are you worldly?

It’s dangerous, and in our next post, we’ll see just how dangerous being worldly can be.  

On evil speaking, part 3

31 Oct

Yesterday we looked at what it means to speak against others.

Today, why.

Why do we speak evil against others?

 We speak against others because we think we know better than God’s law. 

“He who speaks against a brother, or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law…” 

When you slander someone, when you gossip, when you criticize, you are setting yourself up as judge over them.   That means you are saying I know enough, or I have the right to say that what you are doing is wrong or not good.   

Most of us understand that.  That much is obvious.   

Think about the last conversation you had where you were criticizing someone.  

“I can’t believe they said that.  I mean who are they to come in there and look at me like that.  They think they are so good.  They think they are so much better than me.  I wish I could just tell them what I really thought of them.” 

What are you really saying?  I know the right thing to say.  You didn’t say it.  I deserve much better than how you treated me.  I know what you were thinking.  I can read your mind and discern your motives.  And I don’t think your motives are good.

You are setting yourself up as judge, jury and executioner.

What most of us don’t realize is that when we speak against others, we are not only speaking against others, and we’re not just judging others.    

We are also speaking against God’s law, and we are also judging God’s law. 

When you slander someone else, you are disobeying God’s law, you are showing disregard for God’s standards, and you are saying you don’t need to obey it.  

You see God is King.  And He explains in Scripture how He wants us to speak.  Our words are not our own.   God has a mission for our mouths.   That mission is found all throughout Scripture, but it’s summed up for us in Leviticus 19.  

Listen to how Moses puts it, “You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people, and you are not to act against the life of your neighbor; I am the Lord.  You shall not hate your fellow countrymen in your heart, you may surely reprove your neighbor, but shall not incur sin because of him.  You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself; I am the Lord.”  

God has been so good to us.  He’s shown His love to us in amazing ways.  But we’re not only to be recipients of God’s love.  God is saying here, He wants us to be agents of that love. Which means we’re not free to talk however we want to talk.  Our King commands us to speak words that are motivated by love.  

And so when we don’t do that, when we speak against our brother or judge our brother, we’re not only saying bad things about him, we’re saying bad things about God’s law.  We’re not only saying we are better than our brother, we’re also saying we know better than God.  We know more than He does.  We don’t have to obey His laws.  We don’t have to do things His way.  We are excused.  God says don’t, I say do, that’s it, end of story.  I’m breaking God’s law. 

You see, James sums it up at the end of verse 11, “But if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge of it.”  

If you slander your neighbor, you slander God’s law and if you slander God’s law that means you are not obeying it.  And by not obeying God’s law you are making a statement.    You are saying, you can live by your own standards.  And what’s that?  Pure, unabashed pride.  

Do you see that?  

When you slander others you are not just saying something about them.  You are saying something about God’s law.  You don’t have to obey it. 

Imagine a guy whose driving his car and refuses to stop at red lights.  He just keeps driving on the wrong side of the road, and never keeps within the speed limit.  That’s guy is dangerous.  He will kill someone. He is also utterly contemptuous of the law of the land. 

Or think about a soccer-player who picks up the ball in his hands and runs with it ruins the game, and also is despising the rule-book. 

Or perhaps think about a soldier who gets up when he feels like and won’t go on maneuvers and says to the sergeant “Well, that’s your opinion.”   That guys is going to end up in a cell. He also belittles the army code. 

If it’s foolish and dangerous for a motorist…how much more for us to disregard God’s law.  Geoffrey Thomas explains, “Now, those are just human laws and codes, but this royal law is the written by the finger of God.  So all slander hurts your brother or disparages your neighbour, but also it dismisses the Word of God. In that great day God will say to you, “You sat in judgment on my word, and you condemned it. You spoke against my word.” And you will say “When, Lord? When did I speak against your word and judge it?” And God will say, “When you ran down Bill Jones and Mary Smith. When you sat in your kitchen with that telephone in your hand and said those cruel things against them so harshly, it was then you were sitting in judgment on me and on my words. Depart from me ye cursed into eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels.” When you judge the law the law will judge you. The law is given to us to obey, not to be despised.”

What would you think of a person who went around saying, ‘God’s law is stupid.  I don’t have to obey it.  I don’t need to waste my time listening to it?’  And what would you think if he called himself a Christian? 

Yet that’s just what we are doing when we slander our brothers.  We’re saying we know more than God’s law.  

So do you see how pitiful you are when you go around gossiping about others?  You are going out and you are saying, I can’t believe what so and so did, I mean can’t believe the things they said, and how they acted.  And when you do that you are acting like you are so holy, like you have the right to be their judge.  When in reality by the very act of slandering while you are criticizing them for breaking God’s law you at the same time are arrogantly breaking God’s law.  It’s kind of like a guy who is just drenched in mud pointing at another guy and mocking him because he’s drenched in mud.  Doesn’t make sense.  

All this nasty talk, this slander, this speaking against others, this hypercritical spirit, it is a symptom.  A symptom of what?  A symptom of blind and foolish pride.  We think we know better than God.

You’d think that be enough. 

But we will see tomorrow, James gets even more intense.  

 

On evil speaking, part 2

30 Oct

What does it mean to speak evil against someone?

Let me get specific.

We speak against others when we speak words that are intended to hurt not to help.   

When you speak against someone your words are like soldiers that you send out to do war.  The term James uses here literally means to speak down on. When you speak down on someone what are you doing?  You are speaking to crush them, to hurt them, to punish them, to pummel them, to put them in their place.  Why do you do that?  At that point, your words certainly aren’t motivated by love. When our words are motivated by hatred instead of love, when our words are motivated by a desire to tear others down instead of a desire to build them up, when they are motivated by a desire to hurt others not to help them, we can know for sure, that we are doing just what James forbids.

We speak against others when we speak words that are produced by pride not humility.

Notice in the second part of verse 11 James expands his thought.  “He who speaks against a brother, or judges his brother…”  This is basically the same activity just viewed from a different angle.  

When we speak against others we are setting ourselves up as their judge.  James is not talking about evaluating someone, he’s talking about condemning them.  He’s talking about the kind of speech that flows out of a heart that is filled with pride, that comes from a person who is looking down on others, and thinks that he has the right to make disparaging comments about them because he is so much better than they are.  

Some people get a little confused here, and they use these verses as an excuse. 

Somebody confronts them in their sin and they say you know who are you to judge me, who are you to speak against me?  That’s not the kind of speech James is talking about here.  That’s taking this verse way out of context. 

It’s not wrong for us to confront someone in their sin.  We’re commanded to.  You look over at Galatians 6, “Brethren even if a man is caught in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, each one looking to yourself lest you too be tempted.”  It’s kind of hard to do that without words.  God’s not calling us to be namby-pamby, to be spiritual Barney’s just going around with plastic smiles on our faces ignoring reality.  

It’s not even wrong to be passionate about the way we confront, and to when appropriate use some strong language.  If you flip back to Matthew 3 you see John the Baptist confronting the Pharisees and Sadducees, verse 7, “You brood of vipers who warned you to flee from the wrath to come…”  Or you look at Paul in Galatians 3, and he writes, “You foolish Galatians, who has bewitched you…”  Or over in Philippians 3:2, he’s warning the church about a certain group of men and he says, “Beware of the dogs, beware of the evil workers, beware of the false circumcision…”  That’s passionate, strong language. Jesus Himself, who is perfect, confronts Peter and says “Get behind me Satan…”  You can’t say anything much stronger than that.  

No, when James talks about not speaking against others, and not judging others he’s not talking about lovingly dealing with someone’s sin; he’s not talking about closing your eyes to reality; he’s not talking about humbly going to someone and dealing with an issue.  

Really, at a fundamental level, he’s talking about selfish speech, speech that has one purpose, to make you look good and to make others look bad, speech that is motivated by selfishness, not selflessness, characterized by pride not humility. 

You know, we can get specific, and we should get very specific about exactly how we do this, but first we’ve got to start out in a very general way and just look at what motivates our words. 

That’s really the issue here.  

Next time you find yourself talking about people or talking to people, I just beg you, ask yourself, why am I saying what I’m saying? 

First, is it even true?  Or am I just assuming? And then even beyond that, what’s the point?  Why am I talking about this?  What is it that is motivating my speech?  

To get a little more specific, sometimes we speak against others by lying about them. 

As Exodus 20 puts it, we bear false witness.  We say things that aren’t true.  That’s actually how Noah Webster defines slander.  He says it is a “false tale or report maliciously uttered and tending to injure the reputation of another by lessening him in the esteem of his fellow citizens…”   A story that makes someone look bad.  

You wouldn’t think we’d have to point this out in church, but guys, the Bible makes it clear God does not want us to say things that aren’t true about others.  That’s sin.  And we do it all the time.  

Sometimes we do it in very blatant ways. 

We say things that we know aren’t true about other people just because we want to make them look bad. 

But most of the time, we’re not so obvious about it. 

We say things we don’t know are true about others just because we enjoy looking like we know something important. 

We’re quick to pass on that word of gossip. 

We hear something negative about someone, and what’s the first thing we do?  Do we go to that person to find out the truth, to see if we can help?  Do we get on our knees and pray for that person?  No, we go out and we talk about it.  We spread the word.  And it could be we are just flat out lying because we’ve never taken the time to figure out the truth. 

Sometimes we just exaggerate a person’s faults.  We paint a caricature of them.  

A lot of times a spouse will do this.  They’ll be talking with their friends about their husband or wife, and they will keep emphasizing their spouse’s bad qualities – and don’t tell their friends the whole story.  

Or sometimes when someone does something to hurt us, we’ll run and tell others about it.  And we keep talking about the way they hurt us, only to find out later that we didn’t know the whole story, and they had a reason for saying what they said, or doing what they did.  We just didn’t know it.  And so we went out and lied.   We slandered them.

But slander’s not just lying. 

Sometimes we speak against others by saying things that are true about them behind their backs for no other reason than just to put them down. That too is slander.  

This is such a powerful temptation.  You’ve got to recognize that. 

You know it must be a powerful temptation because there are at least three shows on television devoted to doing just this about celebrities.  Britney Spears smoked a cigarette in Mexico, we’ve got pictures, whoo, come find out.  And people just eat that stuff up.  We love gossip.  

But, God hates it. 

As John MacArthur explains, “The Old Testament denounces the sin of slandering God or men more often than it does any other sin.  In Leviticus 19:16, God commands His people, ‘You shall not go about as a slanderer among your people.’  It is the mark of a godly man that ‘he does not slander with his tongue;'(Ps.15:3) it is the mark of the wicked that they do slander others; (Ps.50:19-20; Jer.6:28; 9:4; Rom.1:30).  The seriousness of slander caused David to vow, ‘Whoever secretly slanders his neighbor him I will destroy’ (Ps.101:5), and to pray, ‘May a slanderer not be established in the earth’ (Ps.140:11).  Solomon wisely counseled against associating with a slanderer. (Prov.20:19)  The New Testament also condemns slander.  The Lord Jesus identified its source as an evil heart. (Mt.15:19) and taught that it defiles a person. (Mt.15:20)  Paul feared that he would find slander among the Corinthians when he visited them (2 Cor.12:20) and he commanded the Ephesians (Eph.4:31) and the Colossians (Col.3:8) to avoid it.  Peter also exhorted his readers not to slander others. (1 Peter 2:1)”

Gossip might taste sweet, but God says it is a poison. 

A sweet, sweet poison.  

Sometimes we speak against others by just being hypercritical.  That’s what’s implicit when James talks about judging people.  He’s talking about finding fault with others, constantly putting people down.  We don’t just do that behind people’s backs, sometimes we do that right to their faces.  Nitpicking at everything that person does.  Whatever they do, it’s not good enough for you. Constantly standing in judgment on people. 

I heard a story about David Simmons, “a former cornerback for the Dallas Cowboys which illustrates this kind of speech. His father, a military man, was extremely demanding, rarely saying a kind word, always pushing him with harsh criticism to do better. The father had decided that he would never permit his son to feel any satisfaction from his accomplishments, reminding him there were always new goals ahead. When Dave was a little boy, his dad gave him a bicycle, unassembled, with the command that he put it together. After Dave struggled to the point of tears with the difficult instructions and many parts, his father said, “I knew you couldn’t do it.” Then he assembled it for him. When Dave played football in high school, his father was unrelenting in his criticisms. In the backyard of his home, after every game, his dad would go over every play and point out Dave’s errors. “Most boys got butterflies in the stomach before the game; I got them afterwards. Facing my father was more stressful than facing any opposing team.” By the time he entered college, Dave hated his father and his harsh discipline. He chose to play football at the University of Georgia because its campus was further from home than any school that offered him a scholarship. After college, he became the second round draft pick of the St. Louis cardinal’s professional football club. Joe Namath (who later signed with the New York Jets), was the club’s first round pick that year. “Excited, “I telephoned my father to tell him the good news. He said, ‘How does it feel to be second?'” 

We may not be that extreme. 

But we do have to be honest, and recognize that for many of us it is easier to constantly be criticizing others than actually try to help them and encourage them and build them up.  

Listen. 

Our words have power. 

They can either build others up or they can tear them down.  God doesn’t want us to use our words to tear others down. 

That’s why James writes, “Do not speak against one another, brothers…”

On speaking evil…

29 Oct

“Do not speak evil against one another brothers…” James 4:11

Every week, every one of us experiences all sorts of different problems. Our car breaks down, a friendship crumbles, we lose our job.

Now obviously such a wide variety of problems require a wide variety of solutions. But regardless of what particular problem we experience, every solution, every real solution has at least one thing in common. We all know if you are going to effectively deal with any sort of problem you have to move beyond merely treating the symptoms of the problem to dealing with what is actually causing those symptoms.    

Imagine taking your car to a mechanic because the engine is making funny noises. He listens, says you are right, sounds funny. So he goes out into the garage and comes back with a pair of headphones. Put these on, you won’t hear the noises anymore. 

Or imagine if one of your kitchen pipes burst. And so you call a plumber to come out and fix it.  And he takes a look, scratches his head and comes up with a solution.  He twists the pipe so the water shoots out into a bucket, then he sits down at your kitchen table and makes out a schedule for your family, every person has three hours a day that they have to watch and dump the buckets when they start to overflow.  

It doesn’t take a brain surgeon to figure out if you just deal with the symptoms you are not going to really deal with the problem. But unfortunately for many that basic principle is not so obvious when it comes to their spiritual life and their spiritual problems. They are continually frustrated in their attempts to change because they are dealing with the symptoms, not their real problem. They are putting band-aids on a broken leg.

In James 3 and 4, James is doing everything he can to make it very clear, that our problems in our relationships with others are symptoms.  They are symptoms of a problem in our relationship with God. Therefore to resolve the problems you have in your relationships with others, you must first resolve the problem you have in your relationship with God.

One reason so many Christians are stuck in sinful conflict is because they fail to understand just that. They see their relationships with others as somehow disconnected from their relationship with God.  And so they are continually trying to solve their problems in their relationships with people while ignoring what their relationships with people say about their relationship with God. They are continually treating the symptoms but never dealing with the cause.  Because they don’t see how the two connect.

And, that apparently is what is happening here in James.  There were a number of people who wanted to be teachers because they thought they were spiritually mature, but failed to control the way they spoke to others.

They were failing to see how their relationship with God had anything to do with their relationship with one another.  They were so blinded by their own spiritual pride that they failed to see they even had a problem. And so James goes to great lengths here in chapters 3 and 4 to show that their relationship with God has everything to do with the way their relationship with one another.   

Point blank: 

You are not spiritually mature if you are stirring up strife.  

So although they may appear religious and wise, James makes it clear since they are so quarrelsome that proves their life is not controlled by wisdom from God but by the wisdom of the world.  The fact is, they live their lives as slaves to their own selfish desires, which is just how the world lives.  And really that’s a way of life that is hostile towards God Himself.

So ultimately the reason they are having these problems in their relationship with others is because they have a major problem in their relationship with God.  They are proud.  And Scripture makes it clear that they’ll never resolve their problem with others until they resolve their problem with God.  

God is opposed to the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Therefore instead of exalting themselves in the eyes of others they need to humble themselves before God and repent.  

That’s the pathway to peace.  

So you say how do I resolve my conflicts with others? 

James answers, you need to begin by dealing with your conflict with God.  

Fights and quarrels are a symptom. A symptom of a problem in your relationship with God. And James explains, the problem is pride.  You haven’t humbled yourself before God so you aren’t humbling yourself before others.  

Now that is helpful. 

It gives us an entirely new perspective on our problems with people.  You’ve got to see what your problem is before you can deal with it.  

But even still, you may be thinking, what do you mean?  It’s still a little bit fuzzy for me.

I mean, I get the general overarching principle, pride is at the root of my problems with others, but I need you to show me how this works out in real life. 

How does a problem in my relationship with God produce a problem in my relationship with others?  

So James illustrates. 

That’s what he is doing in James 4:11 and 12. 

He is giving a very practical real life illustration of how the problem of strife in our relationships with others is directly and inextricably linked to the problem of pride in our relationship with God.    

And he does so by addressing an issue that is of particular importance in dealing with conflict, the way we speak.

He begins with a command: 

Do not speak evil of one another

There’s no doubt one of the most common ways we sin is the way we speak. 

And one of the most common ways we sin when we speak is by speaking against others.  

Perhaps that’s one reason why James keeps highlighting the importance of godly speech. He knows how easy it is for us to fail to pay attention to the way we communicate.  And that’s a terrible mistake. Because he explains in chapter 1 that the way you speak is a test of whether or not you are a believer. In fact, he continues in chapter 2 by reminding us God is going to judge us for the way we communicate. Then he follows that up in chapter 3 by pointing out the power of speech and especially it’s potential to destroy.  People may minimize this issue, but God does not.  He cares about how you speak.

Now you know James. 

He’s so practical. 

And so here in chapter 4 he gets very specific. 

He doesn’t just tell us vaguely to pay attention to the way we speak, he points out very specifically, the kind of speech that displeases and dishonors God.  

God doesn’t want us to speak against each other.  

This is one of those times we have to be very careful we don’t miss James’ point.  The problem is this is such a common sin that many of us do it without even realizing we are doing it.  We speak against others all the time, but we don’t even think of it as speaking against others, because it’s just the way we normally speak.   

I remember watching a story about an EMT up in Boston who only had one arm.  And she was so used to her handicap that she didn’t even really think about it.  She went out on runs, went to people’s houses, did her job and didn’t stop and think about the fact she only had one arm.  But you can bet other people noticed.  It was obvious.  But she had that physical handicap for so long she’d become accustomed to it, so she didn’t even really notice it.  Everybody else saw it; but she didn’t because she was used to it.  That’s the way some of us are with the way we speak. 

We’ve got a major problem. It’s obvious to others. But we’re not even aware of it.  

So, in the days ahead, let me take some time to break down what James is talking about here very specifically so you notice it and can turn from it.